Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Overwhelmed (in a good way)!

Maybe it's because October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, and October 15 is the day where we can all come out and support one another in our loss and our hope, or maybe I'm just feeling extra fuzzy right now.

I've come to realize, thanks to the amazingness of the internet, that there are so many amazing, strong, fabulous women out there who have gotten the TAC in order to give themselves the absolute BEST chance in keeping their babies in for the long haul.  Lara, Marie, Alyson, Sara to name four - all fighters who made the sacrifice of pain, blood, sweat and tears to ensure future hope.

I'm overwhelmed by what the TAC can do.  I'm awestruck by what it HAS done.  I want to shout it from the rooftops, and I want every woman who even has an inkling of cervical issues to have it done.  I have to walk a fine line between being obnoxious about it and being too mum.  I want to share with women, but unfortunately, the only way they know about their cervical issues is when it's too late.  Everyone reacts differently to the hurt that follows.  I wanted education, I wanted to read stories like my own, I wanted an answer, and I wanted HOPE that it wouldn't happen again.

So, if you're out there reading this after a loss from cervical insufficiency, I hope you've learned about a surgery that DOES give hope.



  1. I feel the same way! There's a girl on the Bump - Sweetie, maybe? - who had almost the same thing as I did, and her doctor dismissed the IC connection. I'm so scared for her! I hope this surgery continues to make waves and that more and more people become advocates for their health.

  2. Hi Trisha,

    I just wanted to let you know I follow your journey and want to wish you the very best with your pregnancy. I look forward to your birth story.

  3. Yes, Lara, that's me (SweetieD21 on thebump)! My high risk dr wasn't willing to do anything more than a rescue TVC at 16 weeks, if necessary. Of course, I wasn't comfortable with that, so after much reading and researching I decided to go with the TAC. I'm getting it done this Friday, 10/15, by Dr. Davis. I'll be 11 weeks. I'm nervous, but anxious to get it over with!

    Lara and Trisha...you've been given me the encouragement and strenth to fight for this, so thank you so much! Hope you're both doing well from your surgeries!

  4. OMG SWEETIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm soooo excited for you! Keep me posted sweetheart!

  5. Hi Trisha,

    I found your blog and sadly I am one of the ladies that did not have a TAC done. I lost 2 boys in 2004 and 2005 at 16 weeks gestation. The first one was considered PPROM and a fluke the second one was definitely IC. My high risk doctor felt that if he put the TVC in early that it would not be a problem. I mentioned to him about TAC and he said that it shouldn't be necessary. I got the TAC put in around 12 weeks and at 18 weeks I had funneled to the stitch. I spent 31 days in the hospital and delivered my baby girl at 23 weeks 5 days. Just 2 days shy of viability. She lived in the NICU for 4 days and died on September 27, 2010. It has been a long hard road, but thanks to blogs like yours I feel hope and joy that the TAC can help with future children!

  6. Yvonne, I'm so sorry for your losses. I just want to clarify, that after reading your blog, I see that you had lost your third baby at 23w5d to a failed TVC, not a failed TAC. I wish you HUGE success with the TAC. You are a beautiful MOTHER. (((HUGS)))

  7. Hey Trisha, Ok, I just re-read the comment that I wrote - I got the TVC put in around 12 weeks and funneled to the stitch. All of these acronyms :-) I had a failed emergency cerclage (TVC) in 2005 and now a failed preventative cerclage (TVC) this year.

    Now I am in full TAC research mode, going to talk to my doctor about seeing if my insurance will pay for a TAC in advance or if I have to wait to get pregnant.

    Sorry for the misprint. Thanks for the encouragement!

  8. I thank you soooo much for posting your whole TAC experience... It really gives me such hope! I lost 3 babies this year- my baby boy on 1/10/13 at 18 weeks and boy/girl twins on 8/1/13 at 21 weeks with a failed TVC. I wished I had been educated and spoke to Dr. Haney when I had my twins; I feel like they would've still been in my tummy now if I just skipped the TVC and went straight to the TAC! I regret that choice that I had made and unfortunately have to live with it. Through stories like yours, I have such hope for the future! Hubby and I plan to get my TAC in January 2014; start the new year off on a good note! Following my Pre-pregnancy TAC we plan to try again. We conceived our twins via IUI since I have PCOS and don't always ovulate on my own; first try and we conceived them... Hope to have the same luck next time. Thanks again and take care!

    ~ Erin